Getting married this weekend--any advice? [Archive]

AALEE

07-19-2007, 01:46 AM

New to the forum but have experience in this. At the end of the day when you both lay to rest and she says I LOVE YOU believe it in your heart. Do not run, grant her what you promissed and try to understand that as hard as you have worked to get where you are a meaningful relationship is worth much more. Good luck and cherish the day.

snow

07-19-2007, 02:36 AM

Run.LIKE HELL!!!!! Then run some more lol.

Kiddin. CONGRATS TO YOU AND YOURS.

regards snow

mrbigbluelight

07-19-2007, 02:36 AM

Assuming you pass your law school finals, I'd suggest ......... you sue her.

What for ? Hell, I don't know, you're the lawyer !

:)

Actually, what would be kind of cool would be to have someone you know deliver a fake subpoena to the bride-to-be the morning of the wedding.

In it it says something along the lines of:

"You are hereby ordered to cease and desist any nervous behavior, and are ordered to acknowledge that this day will go just fine. You are commanded to get rid of any fears of not making the right choice, and are compelled to appear at [fill in the location] church at [fill in the time] to enter a legally binding lifelong contract with [fill in your name], an interested party who certifies his love and devotion to you" .......etc, etc.

Trust me ...... broads go for this kind of stuff (You might even "get some" that night, if you know what I mean ;) ).

The only other advice I could give would be to eat lots of muscacholi (sp?) at the reception, drink enough to remain coherent and lucid but enough that you can muster up a decent barf. Then, during a son-in-law, mother-in-law dance, barf down the back of the dress of your future mother-in-law.

:)

If you find any of this advice useful, I expect to be appropriately renumerated or I'LL sue.

Oh, and I guess .... have fun !

kingtut

07-19-2007, 02:42 AM

Congrats, everything goes so fast, so it will be a blur by the end of that day. Make sure you take a lot of pictures.

Sherardp

07-19-2007, 02:46 AM

Congrats and take lots of pictures.

AALEE

07-19-2007, 02:52 AM

Ditto, pic's are priceless. Focus on the day, the honeymoon, then the bar...and pass it the first time, it's not that tough.

disneyjoe7

07-19-2007, 04:27 AM

All great advice, also very funny thread. :)

Diz

engtaz

07-19-2007, 06:50 AM

Congrats and enjoy.

Just remember, when you were dating, you only thought of the other person and not yourself. Always remember that because the first time you ask what has so and so done for me is when marriage can have problems.

fatchowmein

07-19-2007, 07:15 AM

1. Breathe.
2. Wear comfortable shoes or good inserts.
3. Take it all in stride and enjoy the wedding. They usually never go according to plan but if you're relaxed then the guests are relaxed (well, maybe not the bride, family, in-laws).

Congrats!

pearsall001

07-19-2007, 08:36 AM

Make sure you have someone you can really "trust" to collect the envelopes!! Other than that just enjoy what's probably going to be "the best day of your life"

jmwest1970

07-19-2007, 09:09 AM

The best piece of advice anyone gave me was "Don't let the marriage change anything. After the ceremony and the honeymoon, just live life as before you were married." This is what my wife and I do and it's wonderful.

cfrizz

07-19-2007, 09:16 AM

Congratulations! Just have fun and enjoy your special day with your special woman. And remind her that this is your special time together & she should enjoy and have fun as well.

Congrats again & post some pics of the big day when you can.

reeltrouble1

07-19-2007, 09:24 AM

everyday bless her and remember this woman has agreed to actually let you sleep next to her, you can draw the line on your gear but give her everything else you can.

RT1

engtaz

07-19-2007, 09:40 AM

everyday bless her and remember this woman has agreed to actually let you sleep next to her, you can draw the line on your gear but give her everything else you can.

RT1

Priceless

Paul in Canada

07-19-2007, 09:41 AM

Congrats. Enjoy your special day. My 10th aniversary is coming up and the time went by so fast. My wife is my best friend and we still do almost everything together despite the fact she doesn't understand my attraction to audio. I have very fond memories of our wedding and our nice little honeymoon driving through Maine and New Hampshire. Congrats again.

zombie boy 2000

07-19-2007, 09:46 AM

Be prepared to meet and greet for a good portion of the reception. My wife and I actually didn't have a chance to even taste the meal that we shelled out so many ducets for.

If you haven't already lined it up, try to get all the professional pics of you and the wedding party before the ceremony. Trust me on this.

strider

07-19-2007, 10:15 AM

Did you know that your finals were going to be this week when you picked the date? I'm having a hard enough time staying focused as it is; I'm getting married next Saturday.

Good luck and congratulations, let me know what advice helped you out after it's over!

shack

07-19-2007, 10:38 AM

Any advice on how to make the most of the big day?

Fooling around with one (or more) of the bridesmaids on the day of your wedding is usually NOT a good thing to do. That is what bachelor parties are for. ;)

cnjvh

07-19-2007, 10:51 AM

Make sure to video tape the cermeony on VHS. That way 10 years from now you can watch the tape in reverse and see yourself walking away a free man.

cstpeter

07-19-2007, 11:12 AM

Good stuff! Some great advice and even better humor.

I'll post some pictures after all is said and done.

p.s. Congrats Strider!

wingnut4772

07-19-2007, 11:27 AM

Congrats! Just enjoy your day and have fun.

Drumingman

07-19-2007, 12:40 PM

Never part ways, when you leave the house, mad at each other, you never know what will happen when you're apart.

Remember that women Think different than men.

Don't just show her you love her on Valentines Day.

If you really love her, Everyday should be Valentines Day.

Don't be the "strong silent type", so many marriages fail because of

"A failure to communicate". :cool:

SLOCOOKN

07-19-2007, 12:46 PM

The Big Day will go by faster than you realize! There are bound to be last minute glitches! About an hour before I got married my best man asked for the ring. I about $hit my pants. I had no idea where the ring was:confused: .....turned out mom in law had them and everything was ok. It did rain on our out door wedding so we had to move it inside. My mother in law yelled at the cater because her side of the family was being served food before us:o .........all sorts of crazy little things that make it all memorable:D !

Just make sure SHE is happy and you will enjoy it.;)

P.S. That will apply to every thing else for the rest of you life from now on!:eek:

dudeinaroom

07-19-2007, 12:49 PM

Make sure you and your best man and some friends hit the titty bar the night before, just don't get completely wasted(I think I had 2 drinks when I went, and my friends bought me a lap dance, and I got a kiss from the hottest chick there, and yes, my wife knows). Try to get every thing you need for your self the night before, and have it all together (before you go out tho the titty bar). Oh yeah, don't hold your breath through out the whole ordeal. Don't forget to turn and face your bride when she is walking down the isle. The best advise I can give you is enjoy it and have fun

rskarvan

07-19-2007, 12:52 PM

Be nice to the photographer. Weddings are all about pictures. The photographer plays a much more important role than the minister.

Remember, to the bride, what really matters is the Photo Album. The entire concept of weddings was invented by Kodak. Remember that, and you'll have a fine day.

Incidentally, I married my wife in Whitewater, WI. Wisconsin brides are by far the best ones in the entire country. Just make sure that you have plenty of cheese in the house and never say anything bad about Greenbay.

Finally, stay the heck out of Delavan. Nothing but trouble in that town.

zombie boy 2000

07-19-2007, 01:02 PM

Like it's been mentioned... there are bound to be some minor glitches. Just don't let 'em get to you. My 2 year old ring bearin' nephew fell down a flight of steps on his way to walk down the aisle. The maid of honor was supposed to help him down and she just zoned out. Could have been really, really bad. And though he screamed and yelled for about two minutes, things subsided and everything else went as planned.

If anything, we can laugh about it today and it probably did more to spice up the wedding.

disneyjoe7

07-19-2007, 01:19 PM

Are you getting Married on Saturday?

If so VERY VERY VERY Bad it's my Birthday also. ;)

Good luck.

And don't forget the women is always right.

doggie750

07-19-2007, 03:21 PM

Hmmm.....There are pros and cons on this but it's all up to you HOW YOU REALLY KNOW HER.....if you only think she's the one......THEN doNT!!!!
IF you are one of those guys who think divorce is normal to marriage then you could do whatever you want. Otherwise if you heart to heart with her and both of you know it's time to settle...CONGRATULATION.....
There's only one advise for you, bond as one with GOD.....I've known my girl eversince kids....but after marriage SHE is different........but we took this "engagement encounter....retreat" prior to marriage......Oh my GOD it works........The retreat made me understands her when she is in flame or made me ask for forgiveness when I was in flame.......believe me on this..........GODSpeed

OH yeah......4got it's this weekend.......if it's a city marriage do one a church wedding afterwards in the same year........

halo

07-19-2007, 04:45 PM

Chris,

The earlier you leave the reception the sooner you can start the honeymoon :)

Congrats and good luck .

Stay loose.

Have a great time at the bachelor party.

Just remember that this is what you both wanted & there is nothing to be nervous about. If something small goes wrong I doubt anyone will notice it except you and the Mrs. to be. We had a few mistakes but no one else noticed. We planned the whole thing - everyone else just showed up for the party.

dkg999

07-19-2007, 05:02 PM

I'm only 70 miles south of Madison WI. I'll keep the truck full and give me an hour and fifteen minutes and the GPS coordinates if you need me to extract you from the whole mess ;)

Good luck!

sabotg

07-19-2007, 05:12 PM

Don't drink so much that you can't get it up on your wedding night. Not that that happened to me or anyhthing:p

steveinaz

07-19-2007, 05:50 PM

RUN. RUN LIKE HELL. RUN LIKE THE WIND.

Kidding brother, congratulations...and RELAX.

markmarc

07-19-2007, 06:00 PM

Never, ever forget to put the seat down!

Get Quicken to keep track of the checkbook.

Discuss all purchases of durable goods.

rskarvan

07-19-2007, 06:01 PM

Most importantly... don't forget to insert "Tab A" into "Slot B". Repeat.

Rivrrat

07-19-2007, 07:46 PM

Buy every toy you've ever wanted before this weekend ( I know, kinda short notice).

Tell the minister to have the ceremony done in 20 mins. Your buds will thank you afterwards.

If you always think of your wife as not just your wife, but also your best friend, things will be good for a long time to come.

tonyb

07-19-2007, 07:48 PM

Congrats bro!!
Never lie......once you break that trust,you'll never get it back.
Pics boy...Pics....

dorokusai

07-19-2007, 08:23 PM

Your life will never be the same.

George Grand

07-19-2007, 08:30 PM

Don't let ANYBODY talk you out of it, and never go in thinking marriage is a 50-50 thing. BOTH parties have to give 100% for it to be a success.

I latched onto something good for once in my life, and it'll be 24 years for us on 30 July.

GOOD LUCK MAN!

shepx2

07-19-2007, 08:35 PM

BOTH parties have to give 100% for it to be a success.

That is THE best advice you will ever get.

Don't ever stop "giving" because you feel the other isn't doing their share. It's all, or nothing.

petrym

07-19-2007, 09:05 PM

Be best friends first (ok, with benefits) and then have activities/hobbies of your own separate from each other too. My hobby is singing barbershop, my wife's is going out and having chick time at Panera Bread or wherever... we still love each other a lot and just celebrated our 20th anniversary. Sometimes you have to be away from each other for a couple of hours.
Get Quicken to keep track of the checkbook.
Absolutely. Budget, save, invest - it makes tax time easier too.

Do not mash wedding cake in her face at the reception. (I have always wondered if the there is a correlation of cake-mashers and divorce rates...)

Enjoy each other's company...

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...and CONGRATULATIONS!

halo

07-19-2007, 09:07 PM

Don't let ANYBODY talk you out of it, and never go in thinking marriage is a 50-50 thing. BOTH parties have to give 100% for it to be a success.That is THE best advice you will ever get.GG is a wise man indeed. All the best Chris :)

halo

07-19-2007, 09:11 PM

TitaniumMan

07-19-2007, 11:34 PM

Please don't be frightened when your new wife wants you to stick your "peepee" into her "woowoo." Just close your eyes and think of Britain. :)

AALEE

07-20-2007, 03:29 AM

doggie wrong, tony right. Never say something that you can't "take back"

mrbigbluelight

07-21-2007, 11:32 AM

Well, I suppose you're running around the house right now, getting ready for the festivities, so just remember: when you get to your hotel room tonight, be sure to have the Lil' Woman run down to the lobby and get you a sammich while you "freshen up", ie, pop open a nice cold frosty can of Stag.

You've have had a busy day, and you'll deserve it.

:D