First thanks to all who responded to my question about paypal when buying from a private party.
First, unless the seller has a paypal account with enough money to pay back a disgruntled buyer after the claim is judged, buyer is out of luck.
Kinda what i thought, paypal does not pay you back with their money.
I have thought of something, although I have yet to check cost, UPS COD.
That way, not only do i not pay until goods are received, i can open them up to verify its not a box of phone books.
Anybody who has experience with ups cod, please share