It took me 3 hrs, a couple of tries for the router, a few uninstalls and a system restore to get the wireless adapter working on puter #2, but it's done.
I'm thinking that reinstalling Macafee av and firewall on the daughter's puter after I got everything working effed it up. Maybe the firewall was blocking the wireless signal. After I did a system restore removing Macafee everything worked fine again. I have to have antivirus on her puter, but I know she doesn't need the firewall, since the router is the best firewall you can have (so I've heard).
Tomorrow, I'll just install antivirus on little Rat's puter and see what happens.
Any input from those that have been there before me is welcome